• Relationships are Meant to Flow

    Helping People Resolve Conflict Biblically

Mediation Services

Third-party assistance to help parties peacefully resolve conflict and restore their relationship.

For churches or faith-based organizations experiencing existing conflict requiring immediate assistance. Litigation services are available if legal issues arise.

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Training Services

A proactive measure to teach people how to resolve future conflict peacefully.

In-depth Conflict Resolution Training is offered for the workplace, church, and racial conflict resolution. Available for individuals, groups, and organizations.

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Investigative Services

To examine evidence to determine what happened so that officials can take appropriate action to resolve the issue(s) and restore peace. We investigate sexual harassment, sex discrimination, race or national origin, disability discrimination, and other areas as well.

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A Kinder Voice is a Better Choice

Oletha Barnett

Oletha Barnett has been in reconciliation ministry since 1991. As a Conciliation specialist, her legal knowledge and career skills as a civil rights attorney and an administrative law judge are highly beneficial.

Serving Churches, Faith-Based Organizations & Individuals

Resolving Conflict Biblically and Healing Relationships

How do we handle conflict when it disrupts our church or faith-based organization? As a servant of Christ, we may feel obligated to bury conflict, and hide our pain, and frustration as it is at a discord of how we think a Christian should behave:

“Don’t make waves. Forgive even if they drive you crazy. Hide the anger.”

A Conflicted Christian View

Unfortunately the very act of burying a conflict is exactly what we should not do.  Anger, pain, and resentment can spread throughout an organization, ending in disruption and division.

Instead, discovering God’s divine healing through mediation and conciliation through His Word will strengthen and empower the people in your organization.

In Ephesians 4:15, Paul says this to the believers in Ephesus:

“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.”

Using my God-given spiritual gifts of teaching and administration, I help people biblically resolve conflict for a culture of peace in the body of Christ. I am honored that you are here and count it as a divine meeting. Please reach out and let me know how I can help.

Our joy is found in serving God’s people with authenticity, humility, passion and compassion. I am a daily witness to God’s awesome grace and His Holy Spirit working for authentic healing between individuals through mediation.

God made us for relationships, a relationship with Him, and relationships with one another.

Life is about relationships. Satan’s goal is to disrupt relationships and divide us, which he started with Adam and Eve. One of his primary ways to divide is through conflict. God uses people to bless us and for our growth. The devil uses people to disrupt us and try to destroy our lives.

When we have conflict and division, we disinvite God from our circles. His essence is love, peace, and unity, as in the operation of the Godhead; oneness. He desires that we have loving relationships. He says, “By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (John 13:35).

God’s nature and the theme that runs throughout the Bible is love. Outside of yourself, only two categories of relationship exist; (1) relationship with God, (2) relationship with others. Relationships are meant to flow with love. Only when we have an appropriate relationship with God can we have the right relationship with ourselves and others. Jesus gave evidence of relationship importance when He responded to a question regarding which is the greatest commandment.

Jesus replied: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:37-39).

Love is a relationship and is central to and the pinnacle of God’s command to us. Love is the connector that ties believers relationships together, as described in Colossians 3:14. Moreover, 1 Corinthians 13 tells us we are nothing without love, like sounding brass and tinkling cymbal – just sharp, piercing noise without heart. Love is more than words. It is an action. We show love by our behavior. Thus, the best approach to resolve conflict is a relationship of love, which we can accomplish love through God’s Spirit in us.

Endorsements

I have tremendous appreciation for the way you worked with grace, wisdom and love to bring peace and clarity in a situation that was so confusing and chaotic.

Your tireless efforts, over so short a period of time, to conduct an investigation, draft a report, mediate individual disputes, train the leadership, and work with elders and staff over a long weekend to pray, confess, repent, confront sin (in ourselves and others) and speak honestly, was, I am sure, divinely inspired.

Oletha Barnett helped our church with a very complex and difficult situation that was ripe for division and church conflict. Instead, the biblical mediation process led to a peaceful and fruitful path for all parties involved. Many leaders in the church are still commenting on how they have never seen a difficult situation handled in this way with the God-honoring outcome for our church. Praise the Lord for Oletha and Conciliation Services!

Ms. Barnett has a deep commitment to the Lord Jesus Christ and to His Word. She is driven by a passion to glorify God in all that she does. Her heart for prayer, her sensitivity to the Spirit’s leading, her complete impartiality as well as her depth of wisdom were all on full display as she guided our team through our leadership conflict.

She is a person of the highest integrity, has a servant’s heart, and goes above and beyond in seeking to resolve issues according to Biblical principles.

Oletha Barnett is one of those unsung heroes of the faith who plays a strategic role in the Kingdom of God. Her uniqueness lies in how she has kingdomized her legal background to help develop and lead the reconciliation ministry at our church in Dallas.

Scripture is clear that matters of division and differences are to be handled by the church, not secular courts. Oletha leads teams of mature believers in hearing disputes between members and seeking to bring reconciliation, healing, and unity out of conflict. And yes, when necessary, church discipline when required due to sinful rebellion.

On a regular basis Oletha adjudicates cases referred to her and her team that allows us to be the church and not just talk church. As other churches and ministries have become aware of this aspect of our ministry, Oletha is being called upon to help them understand the biblical and necessary process for churches to apply God’s principles of reconciliation in their ministries.

Oletha was amazing, and the plaintiff visibly relaxed, working with her. More than that, she kept the focus on what God expects from us and on reconciliation, racial and otherwise. It was wonderful working with her.

1991

In Peacemaking Service since

30+

Years of experience

40+

Attorney at Law/Legal Services

100%

Peacemaking Commitment

General Statement. Conciliation Services are rooted in the belief that God’s Word is sufficient for all aspects of life. Oletha Barnett combines her legal and theological experience and knowledge to provide expert and unique services.

Regarding Conversations. Although conflict can involve more than words, often, words people use are the culprit. In our unique mediations and training, we never underestimate the power of words related to a conflict. Conversations are also meant to flow. A kinder voice is a better choice. We will help you resolve conflict and equip you to resolve conflict and restore relationships.

CONTACT

Conciliation Services, LLC
P. O. Box 3911
Cedar Hill, TX 75106

972-325-6035
Consultation Upon Request
Hours: 9:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. CST

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