An Event
I saw my friend with a down countenance. He explained that his teenage daughter had gotten pregnant. I sternly said, look at me. He raised his head and looked at me. I emphatically stated that is an event in her life; that is not her life.
An event in your life does not have to define your life unless you let it. Everyone experiences events. That is just the way life is. Move on. There is much more.
Think about it.